Why is it difficult to admit anger? Since childhood, many people hear that you can’t get angry, you need to be restrained, compliant and not create conflicts. Such expectations especially often apply to women, who may be required to be patient, caring for others and the ability to smooth over sharp corners. However, unlived emotions do not necessarily disappear. Sometimes they accumulate and manifest themselves in harsh responses, irritation over trifles, offensive words or …
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Compassion fatigue
Fatigue from compassion You open the news in the morning. You see another story about a loss, shelling, a missing person, or someone's request for help. At first, you want to support, share, help, write a few words, but over time, a different feeling may appear: you can no longer react to new stories in the same way. You don't have the strength to empathize. You just want to close the feed. This doesn't mean that you have become indifferent. Sometimes it's...
Passive aggression and microaggressions in everyday life: how to recognize the subtle details that systematically undermine self-esteem
Passive aggression and microaggressions in everyday life: how to recognize imperceptible details that systematically undermine self-esteem Passive aggression is a way of expressing irritation, resentment or dissatisfaction not directly, but indirectly. A person may not say: “I’m angry with you”, but demonstratively ignore, respond coldly, deliberately delay agreements, do something “as if by accident” or use sarcasm. For example: — “Of course, do as you want. You are in …
Why normalizing the first outbursts of aggression blocks the way out of toxic relationships
Why normalizing the first outbursts of aggression blocks the way out of a toxic relationship “He/She is just tired.” “He/She is going through a difficult time right now.” “He/She didn’t mean to offend me.” “Well, everyone can lose their temper sometimes.” This is how the first manifestations of aggression in a relationship can be explained. Especially if before that the partner behaved caringly, supported, was attentive and did not give obvious reasons to doubt his/her attitude. However, the problem is that …
Psychological flexibility: how to act even when it's difficult inside
Psychological flexibility: how to act even when it's difficult inside We can't always control what we feel. We can wake up anxious, sad, afraid of change, or doubt our own abilities. Sometimes we just want to postpone an important task, not respond to a message, not go to a meeting, or turn down an opportunity that seems too scary. Psychological flexibility is the ability to notice our own thoughts, emotions, and …
Decenter Men: when there is more to life than just relationships
Decenter Men: When there is a place in life not only for relationships “Decenter Men” is a concept that has been actively discussed in recent years. It is not about abandoning relationships, marriages, or men in general. And even less about hating them. “Decenter Men” suggests asking yourself a different question: what remains in my life if I remove the search for a partner from it for a certain period of time and …
You should have gotten back in shape by now: how societal pressure on women after giving birth affects mental health
"You should have gotten back in shape by now": how societal pressure on women after giving birth affects mental health "I've let myself down", "I need to lose weight urgently", "Something is wrong with me". The body can change after giving birth After giving birth, the body gradually recovers, but this process does not happen the same for everyone. It is influenced by: the presence of complications after childbirth, breastfeeding, sleep, nutrition, the level of physical and …
Why seeking psychological support should become the norm
Why seeking psychological support should become the norm For a long time, there was a stereotype that seeking help from a mental health professional was a last resort, resorted to only when "everything was really bad." For example, men were taught to be a "wall," to withstand any load, and to silently overcome challenges. However, the reality in which we live requires a revision of outdated ideas. Given the present, seeking help from a mental health professional is a last resort, which is resorted to only when "everything was really bad." For example, men were taught to be a "wall," to withstand any load, and to silently overcome challenges. However, the reality in which we live requires a revision of outdated ideas. Given the present, seeking help from a mental health professional is a last resort.
Body neutrality: how to make friends with your body
Body neutrality: how to make friends with your body Conversations about accepting your own body have become much more visible in recent years. Calls to love yourself, accept your appearance, not be ashamed of changes and not conform to imposed beauty standards are increasingly heard on social networks. For many people, this has become an important support. Not every day a person is satisfied with their own appearance. The body changes throughout life, and with it ...
Motherhood and Work: When Motherhood Becomes a Financial Vulnerability
Motherhood and work: when motherhood becomes a financial vulnerability Having a child can significantly change a woman's professional life. After having a child, many mothers take a break from work, return to it later, or choose employment that is easier to combine with care. This affects not only the number of working hours, but also income, career growth, and further professional opportunities. The "motherhood penalty" Economic consequences …
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